Advice for dating a divorced man with children
Make sure that your boyfriend wants to get married.
This isn’t about whether he wants to marry you; that information will take a few years to suss out.
I can’t tell you what will happen, but I can assure you that there are millions of single moms and dads navigating this space with worse relationship partners.
I can also assure you that there are millions more who have found a way to make things work in a second marriage, so if this guy can’t give you what you need, don’t be afraid of looking elsewhere for a man who can.
I have been dating a wonderful man for about four months now.
We’ve known each other almost 20 years prior to dating, and the transition to an amorous relationship was easy and natural.
She doesn’t work, and she collects disability from the government and spousal support and child support from Adam.Thank you for all of your clear and concise thoughts over the last few years.I have definitely taken things to heart: look for boyfriend behavior; there is a natural timeline where commitment should come by month three, “I love you” around 6 months, living together at 18, engaged at 2-3 years; men do what they want, and so many other pearls.We went from dating other people to monogamous pretty much from the first date; the other milestones are well behind that “natural timeline.” It occurs to me that I should have one of these talks with my SO not because I’m excited to get married again but because I know he’s open to the idea and I should probably be careful that I’m not stringing him along.Dear Therapist, I’ve been dating Adam for two and a half years.