Christian parents and dating
At the same time, remember that even with the “good guy” a résumé can’t replace some regular contact.
She’s worth it — her faith, safety, and well-being — to spend some time seeing him for yourself.
This kind of immaturity might be a reason to press pause on a relationship, or at least slow things down, but it should not be an excuse for dads to withdraw altogether.
What if these dads leaned into these young men at this point?
Completely apart from Isaac, Abraham sends another guy off to find his son a wife.
Some code words and a camel ride later, Isaac and Rebekah are tented and covenanted in love.
Pithy parables or intimidating mandates or climactic conversation (really) can be helpful, but so much more can be accomplished over time together.
Let your first couple conversations be about him, and not her. Study his relationships with his friends and family.
Trade distant, hands-off fear tactics for some faithful, down-to-earth discipleship. The moment is a mountain to overcome in almost any relationship, but I believe it’s a mountain we, as Christians, can capture for the good of the daughter, the suitor, and the father.But as good as ideal sounds, it’s hard to find that picture in the Bible, and ultimately it’s far too simple for most not-yet-married realities anyways. What if she’s still single at 25, 30, maybe even 40?The wise dads relish the opportunity to develop a real, intentional, grace-and-truth relationship with the man who might be tasked with caring for their daughter for the rest of her life.In the first pages of Scripture, we find that great love story of Isaac and Rebekah.